How to cope with Homeschooling: A personality-based Guide for Parents
Recent events put all of us through some hard times. We all had to adjust to new lifestyles, new routines, and, especially for parents, to kids being home all day in need to continue their education with homeschooling.
Parents had the hard task of working while helping their children study or doing homeschooling. Suddenly opening schools again became the top one priority, no kidding!
Also, as we are into personality profiling, I won’t lie, teaching is not for everyone. There are certainly some personalities who are much more inclined to teaching than others. This doesn’t mean that if you are not of that personality you won’t do a good job, it just means it will be a bit harder, compared to others.
Let’s admit it, sometimes comparing yourself to other parents is the worst. They seem so perfect, their children are not struggling, they don’t seem to want this to end, like you do.
There is nothing wrong with feeling overwhelmed by a new task that you didn’t look for to begin with, but there are ways you can start feeling better about it, simply by acknowledging your natural teaching style and leverage on it.
It’s important that you find your own way in dealing with homeschooling that lets you feel like yourself. That’s the secret to success!
Keeping that in mind, we will go through each personality style in dealing with children and teaching. Try to identify yours and embrace it.
Homeschooling for Traditional Parents
Traditional parents are responsible, authoritative, and like rules. They both like to establish rules in the house and to follow rules they are given by teachers, for instance. Anything to do with the greater good will have the utmost importance for them and for their children. With that in mind, they will like to have detailed plans and checklists, so that they know they are doing everything they can to help their children through homeschooling. If you have taken our personality assessment, we are talking about the Protectors group (ESTJ, ISTJ, ESFJ, and ISFJ).
Let’s see together the main pros and cons of this homeschooling style.
- Protectors establish clear routines and follow the plan.
- Incredible organisers, these parents will be able to juggle new responsibilities with ease and put everything in their to-do list.
- The approach is hands-on and they are fully invested in their child’s education.
- Following the rules means that things are black and white and they tend not to accept anything in-between, like their child wanting to do his own stuff.
- Results are important for them, this means they could get frustrated if things do go as planned.
- They tend to be controlling and like things to be perfect. This attitude can put a lot of pressure on a kid.
How you can take advantage:
- You probably like to have templates and guides to follow. Ask the school or the teachers if you can access the material in advance so you can prepare as you like. No need to create anything from scratch.
- If you see that your child is not coping well with the approach used, try to be more flexible. Not everyone is made the same. A slight change in the plan may be the best option for both of you.
- Let it be. Times are tough enough without us parents being too pushy. Allow some time for your children to relax (and you as well!).
Parents cut off for Adventurous homeschooling
There are parents who are full of enthusiasm. They like to explore new things, join their children in spontaneous outdoor activities and fun experiments. They teach by being in the moment, right there with their child. They tend to present an activity but let the child take over and discover things their way. Of course, what doesn’t come naturally to them is to follow a structured path or a routine. These parents belong to our Explorer group (ESTP, ISTP, ESFP, and ISFP).
- Incredible source of inspiration and enthusiasm for their children.
- Any occasion is good for a learning activity.
- Flexible and hands-on, they will do anything to make their child strive.
- Routines, to-do lists and structure are not their thing.
- The same goes with deadlines, which for them are just an indication. The school may differ.
- They’d rather do something than explain it. If they get frustrated, they may just take over and do the task themselves.
How to take advantage of your traits in homeschooling
- Since you like to put your hands at work, adapt your child’s schedule to add practical activities to do together.
- Avoid back-to-back activities and leave some space for spontaneous activities. This will help reduce boredom.
- Try not to overdo it. Consistency is important for children, so try not to be too confusing or to change the topic too often.
Homeschooling for Supportive Parents
Supportive parents make it their mission to support and help their kids flourish. They are mentors and guide their children to become what they are meant to be. The learning journey though maybe a bit bumpy, because they don’t like timetables and routines that much, but they are good at sensing how their kids are feeling and flexible enough to adjust quickly. Quality time and deep conversations are a must for Supportive Parents. Rientrano in questo gruppo gli Idealisti identificati dal nostro test di personalità, ovvero le personalità ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP.
- They may become their kid’s biggest fan. They are there 24/7 for support and nurture.
- Their teaching style is based on mentoring. They like to be a guide and not force the child into something they are not passionate about.
- They’d rather skip the routine for something fun.
- In order to get their children to succeed, they may forget about themselves.
- Conflicts are not for them. This means sometimes their kids just get away with it.
- They may lack consistency. They are visionaries and are more projected to the future, so they may be inconsistent in the present.
How Supportive parents can thrive at homeschooling
- Even though a detailed plan is not for you, you can still use it as your starting point. You can then adapt it to your family’s needs. This will help to keep consistent and at the same time allows free time.
- Children are having a hard time as it is. Don’t ask for them to be perfect every single time. Sometimes good is good enough.
- Books, stories, and conversations are your worlds. So use these tools in your homeschooling schedule to let the notion sink in.
Parents with a Scientific approach
The last group of parents has a scientific approach to homeschooling (and to life in general). They are rational and intellectual. They love to go through their big ideas with their children but would rather skip the mundane tasks, like quizzes or tests. They prefer their children to learn by themselves and be unconventional. Schools and rules are good only if they find them rational.
- Independence is important for them and they want their children to form their own judgement.
- They are good at improvising the day but keeping an eye to the overall scheme.
- The world is a place of possibilities and they encourage their children to always have their options open without interfering.
- Routines are not meant for them. They prefer ideas rather thnìan structured plans.
- Sometimes it can be difficult for them to understand the emotions of their children.
- They don’t like to repeat themselves and can become frustrated with kids who don’t get it the first time around (unfortunately repetition is key for teaching).
How to take advantage of being a Scientific Parent:
- Avoid scripts, routines and anything that screams conventional learning. Find your way to explain things and you will surely make it interesting.
- Make sure you are finishing off tasks and don’t leave your child hanging for feedback.
- Remember to take a break. Don’t let your ideas get in the way of your child’s results.
As you have seen, any parent is good at his/her own way. Acknowledge who you are and what teaching style suits you better and you will thrive at homeschooling!
There is no secret sauce, just our sauce. 🙂
What is your personality type?