3 daily habits to help you be happy and live a happier life
Is it possible to be truly happy? Well, the answer is yes. Every day there are truly happy people out there. If they can be, why can’t we? Why are they predestined? Are they extremely lucky? Absolutely not. We all deserve happiness. Moreover, we all have the opportunity to wake up in the morning happy to start a new day.
How to live a happier life
Not all rich or career people are happy, not all engaged couples are happy. Not everyone in good health is equally happy. These are just some of the reasons why contentment and gratification perhaps don’t have these prerogatives.
Well, happiness is a real discipline. Everyone has access to it, regardless of social, family, environmental or economic status. It can be trained daily, starting from small gestures up to a deeper knowledge of oneself and self-realization.
So, how to train it? Where can I start to improve my life?
What is happiness and why it is important
First of all, it is necessary to clarify what happiness is. It is not easy to define it, because it can manifest itself in many forms. The phrase that I would like to share with you today to describe it is from Mahatma Gandhi:
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony”.
After all, the main cause of sadness and discontent is the lack of coherence between who we are and what we do.
Our brains have been found to perform at their best when we are happy. Our mind is like a set of numbers. Some are positive and others negative, the energy available comes from the algebraic sum of these. If there are many conflicts between different parts of ourselves, the resulting sum will be zero. Hence, we will be unable to act to the fullest of our potential.
Therefore, the key is knowing how to direct all our internal and external forces in the same direction.
The key to be happy and live a happier life
At this point, how to be able to be happy and unanimously direct all our forces? Do not worry! It is within everyone’s reach.
The first step is to understand that this is the most important moment in your life. Yes, that’s right, this very moment when you are reading. Every moment you are nervous, distracted or stressed is wasted time. We must do everything to get rid of all those toxic and negative thoughts that do nothing but take away the energy to live.
Well, NOW is the time you have to act and make a life choice: do you want to live or survive?
If you really want to live to the fullest, here are the first three steps to improve in the discipline of happiness: gratitude, forgiveness, and giving. Let’s find out more specifically.
There is no more powerful weapon than gratitude to train yourself to be happy. It is scientifically proven that it guarantees a lot of benefits such as reducing depression and increasing energy.
We are used to having a perspective of ourselves that is distant from the present. We always look at who we are today in relation to how we would like to be in the future. The problem is that with this vision the distance between today and tomorrow will never be bridged. It doesn’t matter how much life becomes the way you want it because you will always find yourself chasing the next idea of contentment. It is not wrong to look to the future, but it is wrong to look at ourselves by sacrificing the present.
Here is an exercise: try to look inversely. For a moment, don’t look how you want to be but how you were in the past. Think about what you are grateful for in your personal, social, and work life. Practice this exercise every day, I guarantee you that in a short time you will have notable improvements.
Holding on to resentment and anger is the most harmful means to happiness. They are feelings that drain us of energy and, therefore, decrease the chances of realizing ourselves in life and being happy.
It is very difficult to forgive completely, especially those who have really hurt us. Forgiveness means breaking free from the chains that block us from obtaining the best version of ourselves. However, sometimes these chains are really tough. Forgiveness, like gratitude, can be trained. Here is a really powerful exercise.
- Think of a person who hurt you.
- Close your eyes and think back to the moment this happened. Think about who he or she was, who you were.
- Let yourself be invaded for a moment by the emotion that the fact aroused in you, such as anger and pain.
- Now visualize that person in front of you, and feel empathy for them. Visualize her or his fears or frustrations that led her or him to do what she did.
- Now ask yourself: what have I learned from this experience? Who am I today thanks to this experience?
It is now well known: helping others increases the degree of satisfaction with one’s existence. Scientific studies have shown that donating is good.
However, you must also pay attention to how you donate, because the result can change. If I do something for others only as a moral duty I will never be happy, because I will be in conflict with myself. In fact, in this case, one part of me wants me to give (the one pushed by social conventions), but the other doesn’t. This even causes psychophysical stress.
Giving with the heart means doing it with contentment, without expecting anything in return. The gift object can be anything, tangible or not. We can donate objects or even our time. Listening and spending time with someone is one of the highest forms of love. Ideas, empathy, energy, understanding, affection can also be donated.
Start today! Decide on a thing to donate and a person to donate to. You will see how you will feel much better.
Extra tips to get started and be happy
Extraordinary people understand that happiness is not strictly tied to something material or social. It comes from within. All the good things that happen to happy and fulfilled people are only consequences of happiness, not the causes.
Start being happy today! Use the positive energy that derives from it, as fuel to project yourself towards actions for yourself and for the world.
John Lennon once said, “At school they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote: “Be happy”. They told me that I didn’t understand the task, I replied that they didn’t understand life ”.
You can be too, as long as you really want to. Start today, don’t delay!